Why Resistance Is a Structure Problem—Not a Discipline Problem
Why what you’re calling procrastination might actually be your business model waving a white flag.
What ARE You Really Resisting?
If you’re feeling stuck, inconsistent, or emotionally depleted by something in your business right now—posting, selling, following up, or even making a clear decision—it’s time to stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking:
What am I resisting?
And what is that resistance trying to tell me about the structure I’m running it through?
Because resistance isn’t always fear. It isn’t always laziness.
More often—it’s structural incongruence.
It’s not personal. It’s diagnostic.
I get it. Dreading a post—not because I didn’t have something to say, but because I didn’t trust the cost of saying it—And let’s be real… we all have “friends” on Facebook and elsewhere we’d rather not see our content!
So we keep asking ourselves:
Would I really be visible to the wrong people?
Would I really say it powerfully—and still be ignored?
Would it really lead to anything at all?
Those aren’t content questions.
They’re structure questions.
"This business isn’t strong enough to hold the result I say I want.”
When your nervous system, your gut, and/or your intution might be sending resistance signals, it’s not always betraying you. It might be protecting you from expending energy on a path that isn’t built to succeed. Like trying to get to a doorway high above the ground, but without steps to get to it.
It’s not always a mindset problem. It may be a congruence problem.
What Your Resistance Might Be Telling You
Let’s say you want:
Higher income
Better clients
More visibility
Stronger boundaries
But you also:
Dread promoting your offers
Avoid pricing conversations
Feel exposed or defensive when clients say “No”
Worry that success might create more pressure than you can handle
That’s not inconsistency. That’s your structure misfiring.
You’re likely trying to run high-frequency goals through a system designed around survival or an earlier chapter you’ve outgrown.
The structure can’t carry the signal. And your nervous system knows it.
Overthinking ≠ Readiness
Some of the smartest clients I meet are what I call “over-academified.”
Brilliant. Thoughtful. Driven.
And they’re completely stalled.
Too often, it’s too many degrees and not enough business confidence.
They say, “Let me think about it…”
But what they usually mean is:
“Let me stay in the loop where nothing actually has to change.”
The problem isn’t that they don’t know what they want.
The problem is they haven’t built a structure that can tolerate having it.
Too much thinking is often the last socially acceptable way to avoid structural change.
Inside Grow Your Money Voice, we don’t just ask what you want.
We ask: What part of you can’t receive it yet—and how do we rebuild your structure so it finally can?
4 Structural Filter Questions
Before diagnosing resistance as fear or laziness, run it through these:
Do I really want this outcome?
Will this move me closer to what I want?
Is it aligned with my core values (or laws of the universe/nature/Spirit)?
Can I let others make different choices without compromising mine?
If all four are yes?
You’re not resisting the goal.
You’re likely resisting the structure you have in place to get there.
Money ≠ Discipline
Here’s what I’ve found:
Most money problems are really asking problems.
And most asking problems are really structure problems.
If it’s hard to charge $200, $2000 or $20,000…
If it feels scary to follow up…
If posting wipes you out emotionally…
You haven’t yet built a system that holds your voice and your value at the same time.
That’s not shameful.
It’s solvable.
As Jen Sincero writes in You Are a Badass at Making Money:
“You have to change your thinking first, and then the evidence appears. Our big mistake is that we do it the other way around.”
But I’d add this: thinking alone won’t cut it.
You also need a structure that lets your new beliefs breathe.
Instead of Forcing Discipline, Build Possibility
Try this:
Brainstorm 25 ways to fund the thing you “can’t afford.”
Brainstorm 25 people you could serve today
Brainstorm 25 ways to ask for help (even if you don’t send a single one)
Not because you need to do all 25.
But because structural resistance doesn’t respond to logic. It responds to proof of possibility.
Build more structure—and your resistance will quiet.
As Raymond Holliwell wrote in Working With the Law,
“No mind can be conscious of a need or a desire unless the possibility of its fulfillment already exists.”
The desire you feel is valid.
The potential is real.
But your structure has to catch up to it.
This isn’t about forcing discipline. It’s about building a system that shows your nervous system—and your income—that it’s safe to receive what you want to ask for.
The Real Problem Isn’t You. It’s the System You’re Running.
You likely don’t have a motivation problem.
You likely don’t have a discipline problem.
You have a structure that isn’t as equipped as it could be for the level you’re reaching toward.
That’s exactly what we recalibrate in my work—a structural reset for your income, your energy, and your self-respect.
Next cohort begins next week.
Learn more here → Grow My Money Voice
Because resistance isn’t a flaw.
It’s feedback.
And your structure deserves to evolve.
As Wallace D. Wattles put it in The Science of Getting Rich,
“You do not get rich by doing certain things. You get rich by doing things in a certain way.”
And if your structure doesn’t yet support that way?
Let’s fix that. Not with hustle. With design.
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